Phenomenal Ways to Befriend Your Mother-in-law

Phenomenal Ways to Befriend Your Mother-in-law

Marriage is not just about two individuals. It is about the union of two families. It is an alliance. Depending on the arrangement, you might have perks, or you might have tax deductions. A family is the basic unit of our society and mothers are the building blocks of the setup.

The bond you share with your mother-in-law (MIL) goes a long way in building your marriage. The primary conflict in a household begins when the daughter-in-law does not understand the mindset of her mom-in-law and vice-versa. If you are lucky, you might be blessed with a replacement of your blood mother else things can get complicated to manage.

I felt hurt when my toddler preferred going out to play than by hanging out with me. It might sound insane, but it does happen at times, if not always. When I realise the depth of this emotion, I wonder how my MIL would have felt when suddenly her son preferred taking me out for dates rather than staying at home with family. Though there is a situational difference, the underlying element is same. Parting away and sharing.

Mommies get engulfed by separation anxiety to quite a certain extent when their sons get married. The feeling of possessiveness sweeps in. There is an overpowering sense of loss of control.

Unless your mom-in-law is an exception to a composed, understanding and good human being, maintain your cool girls and try to be at peace and keep your efforts going to build up a harmonious relationship with your second mother.

1. Let her open up; discover her choices

The idea is to make her feel important. Talk through. Take her down the memory lane. Revisit her childhood, her youth, her relationship with her son, the perks are while getting to know more of her you would also end up learning about the rest of your family which would, in turn, help you bond better.
Tip:Do not recall anything that she is not comfortable to disclose.

2. Respect her

She is the one who blessed you with your soul mate.
Be grateful to her, no matter what. She has a profound knowledge of running a household, raising a family, and creating sync between everything in and out. Respect her for all the goodness you see in your better half.
Tip:Do not fall into the trap of linking your partner's negatives to his mother's temperament.

3. She might not be right always. No big deal

Are you 'Mrs Know it all'? Are you always Mrs Right? Look within before you point the finger at her. I believe, she deserves at least these small perks and privileges of investing her entire life into a household. Doesn't she
Tip:Silence is the best strategy here.